When it comes to having problems and facing them head-on, we each have our own way of dealing with them. For example, some of us are like ostriches and will prefer to put our heads in the sand to avoid even looking at the problem. Others will look at the problem head-on and will not understand why some procrastinate on the solution. After all, a problem is just a problem, right? Wrong! Some of us will have a harder time facing and solving problems, so let’s see how problem solvers differ from avoiders.
Avoiders, although the word is normally associated with a negative connotation, are actually very practical people. They tend to avoid having to face more problems than they truly have to. If you are mostly an avoider, you may not be the biggest fan of having to deal with problems, but instead, you are more likely to be a great delegator. You may start hiring people to deal with these problems and wish to have nothing to do with it. However, you may not be paying the right kind of attention to the people that you are delegating these tasks to, and it may end up being more stressful because you don’t have the right team to help you. This usually means that you don’t understand the behind the scenes of your business or job, and therefore, you may end up dropping the ball sometimes because you aren’t fully focused on the things to be aware of and to take care of.
On the other end of the spectrum we have controlling problem-solvers, or “control freaks”. Controlling problem-solvers, like avoiders, are at the other extreme. Instead of being unable to face problems and preferring to delegate the problem-solving to someone else, you prefer taking it all in your own hands and dealing with every problem that comes up by yourself. So, you may end up feeling like you need to do it all on your own, or like all you do is take care of the problems that show up while never catching a break.
The problem with being a controlling problem-solver is that instead of reaching out to people who could be of help and who could alleviate your workload, you end up taking it all in your own hands. This is a common source of burnout, especially as you end up feeling like you need to take care of everything without an ounce of help. This also often means that you take on so much that you don’t have time to work on your business– instead, you are so busy controlling the small things that could be delegated that you get stuck in the place you are, unable to push your business further.
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Now, what can be done to fix this, you ask? Instead of being all-or-nothing, the key is to adopt the right kind of mindset depending on the situation you are in. For example, if you are in a very stressful situation, make sure that you are able to rely on help and support from others – who are qualified! That means having a system in place to help you out if you need help, and therefore avoiding a controlling mindset while not falling into an avoidance position.
Ultimately, you need to know what it takes to run your business optimally, but you also need to have the right system in place to keep it all running when the stress gets too much, or when you have other more important tasks to focus on. With this mix, you’re set to go! Better yet, hire the right people to help you out, and you’ll see your stress levels go down dramatically.
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